I have always struggled to live a stress-free life. I worry about almost every aspect of life and living this way has caused me a lot of problems including various bouts of ill health from time to time. I needed to find a way of coping with and reducing the amount of stress in my life and in this article I write about how I have managed to achieve this.
I suppose my main areas of anxiety have been to do with relationships with my friends and with members of the opposite sex, financial, for example worrying about money and also work-related stress.
I am the kind of person who is classed as a thinker. I basically think far too much about personal matters. This thinking is very much in a negative manner and is a cycle that I have found hard to break.
About a year ago I was invited to appear on a national radio show to talk about my occupation which is website promotion and website marketing. I was due to talk live on this radio program at around 2 pm. All morning as was my way, of course, I was thinking and worrying about how I would come across to other people. I was afraid that I would make a fool of myself and would sound like a bit of an idiot. I also, for whatever reason, started to stress about whether I would be able to remember, under the amount of pressure that I was likely to be under, the important aspects of my occupation which people would be interested in.
I was getting myself into a bit of a state and even thought about phoning up to cancel the interview. I then called up a good friend of mine who has always provided me with sound advice. I explained about the radio show and about my fears. He stated that I needed to relax and to even look forward to the experience. It would, he continued, be a chance to promote my own services and therefore was something to be grateful for.
He advised me that what I needed to do was to keep myself busy. If I am very busy, I would not have any time to think in my usual negative way. He informed me that my main problem was that I had too much time on my hands, which results in me spending far too much time thinking and worrying.
This is something I had realized a few years before but had in truth not acted on. I thought about what my friend had said and then decided to get stuck into some much-needed gardening. I am happy to let you know that the radio interview went fine.
I have now learned from this experience and whenever I start to worry or stress, I quickly get to grips with some job, for example, housework. This soon takes my mind off the fear and is the best way to stop me from overthinking.